The most important thing to remember about a birth plan is that it is not to inform your provider about your wishes, it’s for you to inform yourself and your process.
You see, only you can decide what priority each item has on your birth plan and how you far you are willing to advocate for yourself or your new baby. Only you know which battles to pick.
If your birth plan degrades to fighting every item with your provider once presented, remember that they cannot say no to something you decline in labor. Only you can consent or decline a procedure. This is important.
Equally important is to realize that fighting at every stage of labor is hard. It takes your focus off your labor, your baby and adds stress hormones. If you are already having to fight prenatally to get even a chance at what you want, this is a sign to shop around for a new provider, get more support for labor and/or really advocate for yourself prenatally. This is vital if you want your expectations and needs to even come close to meeting the outcome you wind up with. Even if you are the strongest person willing to fight like a wildcat, fighting your entire labor is not the sign of a healthy client-care provider relationship.
Some good things to remember when designing your birth plan are:
- What is an IV? A heplock?
- Does your birthing location have waterbirth or water for labor?
(stay tuned for updates! This post is not complete!)
If you are having back pain or ligament pain, then sometimes supportive wrapping can help. SPD/Pubic Symphysis Pain, it doesn’t matter what you call it, if it hurts and needs support, then a variety of different things can help!
Here are some helpful videos, links, ideas!
These are some births I have been graciously allowed to be involved in, whether through phone support, email or physically being there in attendance with mom and babe:
When you are newly pregnant, most people will ask what kind of colors or theme you want, but there are a lot of important questions to consider as you move forward into motherhood for the first or the fifteenth time!
- Where are you giving birth? home, hospital, birth center or other location?
- Who are you giving birth with? CNM, LM, Non-LM, CPM, DEM, OB, FP or unattended/family birth?
- What are my hospital’s cesarean rates?
- What are my provider’s induction, episiotomy and cesarean rates?
- What is my midwife’s transfer rate? What is the most common reason?
Welcome to Exhale Birth Services, formerly “Your Birth Path”. I originally chose the name, “your birth path” to describe meeting women where they were at and helping them to travel their own path through pregnancy, birth, postpartum and parenting. As time has moved forward, I find that more and more women are looking for a space to breathe, to feel good about pregnancy, to let go of their worries while learning more about their specific needs, options and choices.
You might be looking for guidance, you might be looking for a friend on the journey or you might be looking for a change in direction. Whatever your needs are, I hope that you find something here that you can take away for your journey.